We are fragile beings - nothing drives this point home more than watching my mom struggle with multiple significant health issues.
My mother is a small-town girl from the country. New Yorker - but, she'll tell you, not from the city, from up North where ancient mountains dominate the horizon and streams and rivers abound. She is the Army General's wife - raising five kids all over the globe, moving them, educating them - and then sending them out into the world, all while being married to the Army. She is the person who was home when we moved every few years. Even now, when I think of home, it's where my mom is. She is, without a doubt, the strongest person I know.
Seeing her in the hospital bed, wearing an interested face and making small talk the way you are supposed to when there are visitors, is inspiring. When the visitors go there is a glimpse of the stress and strain this fall and subsequent hospitalization is having on her. There is a tremble to her chin, and a wobble to her fingers. Her broken bones aren't hurting her yet - the pain meds are strong. And, I'm glad that she hasn't asked for a mirror, as the bruising is terrible. Her voice shakes a little with acknowledgement when she conveys to me that the doctor reported "This will be a long road to recovery."
So, I was not surprised when she said this evening, "Well, if I'm going to be here for a while I need to get into some routines. Ellen, please get my face wipes and my cold cream. Let's start there."
As the shift change occurs, the nurse pops in to say goodbye and the General's wife returns, graciously thanking her for the help over the last few days and wishing her a relaxing few days off.